At every stage of life we can reevaluate. It’s never too late to figure out what is and is not working in your life; what no longer serves you well. It could be a stressful career, an abusive marriage, toxic friendships or that big house that no longer suits your needs. We all struggle with letting go. I happen to drive a 15 year old car and I don’t see myself getting a new one in the near future. I still enjoy driving it and it gets me where I need to go.
But whatever it happens to be, we all know that change can be very difficult. Sometimes it’s just easier to cling to what we know even when everything is indicating it’s time to move on. We hold on to what we believed for so long to be true, fearing the void that will remain when we finally make a change. Our calendars are full, our minds are busy and there is no time for reflection.
It’s important to sit back and be a witness to your life. Meditation, solitary walks and yoga can help create the space necessary for self evaluation. Listen to your gut, pay attention, trust your intuition. As Dr. Phil says, “How’s that working for you?”.
Here are some things to consider:
* Have you reached your potential?
* Do you just need a change?
* Has a situation served it’s purpose?
* What is the advantage to being stuck?
* Are you able to grow if things remain unchanged?
All of these things take time to consider, but remember it is difficult to move forward as long as you remain stuck. Determine how much time you are willing to put up with a bad situation. Then begin to take action. Something like a career change is serious business. But letting go of simple things will give you courage to make major changes in your life.
Claire reminds us to cultivate flexiblity in her post Yes Rock the Boat. https://theparsleyway.com/2014/06/15/yes-rock-the-boat/ In it she encourages us to take calculated risks. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, change your daily routine, explore a new route on your way to work. Being flexible in small ways will prepare you when big change comes your way. You begin to learn that the world won’t end if you drop your gym membership. Actually it may open up some time in your schedule so you can finally take that Yoga class.
photos by Chris Primavera